You wouldn't be here if you didn't want to save your marriage.

Unfortunately, most couples wait to seek counseling an average of six years after problems started. And we all know that divorce costs much more than repairing your relationship.

I help frustrated couples find more effective ways to emotionally and physically connect with each other. Together, we will explore the Five Love Languages in order to more deeply connect with your partner. You've lost that loving feeling, you are deeply hurting inside, you are confused, lost and alone.

Here are some hopes I hold for couples counseling:

  • You and your partner want to save your marriage and improve your relationship. I help couples feel more deeply connected by active listening and asking questions. I validate and support you throughout your journey of learning more about yourself and your partner.
  • Each partner is allowed time and space to describe their experience from their own perspective. I am here to help you through that process. I am also very careful about pacing our sessions so that couples do not become too overwhelmed with a sense of emotional flooding. Time in sessions will be shared so that I am able to listen and validate each partner.
  • During our work together, some very strong emotions may arise as we work through family of origin issues, hurtful memories and current struggles. I encourage couples to maintain a consistent self-care routine. It's often amazing what a brisk walk in nature or consistent yoga practice can do!
  • Let's talk about sex... I help couples talk about topics that are not easy to talk about, such as sexual desires and needs as well as feelings of emotional pain, sadness and disappointment. Your sex life isn't what it used to be. You're not getting "turned on" and you don't feel attractive or sexy any more. Your partner hasn't told you that you are attractive or that they want to have sex for quite some time.
  • My office is a designated safe space for couples to share emotions, change behaviors and to improve their relationship. Hurtful venting, heated arguments or any kind of abuse during our sessions is strictly prohibited. I support and encourage you towards shared common goals that we will agree upon together in our first session.
  • I help couples rediscover friendship for each other. I especially enjoy helping men improve their ability to simply listen and turn towards their partner, instead of shutting down, trying to fix something or cutting you off emotionally.

Call me today at 952.892.8433 if you want more romance, peace and balance in your relationship.

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brian zirngible - lmft