Counseling for Teen Males (15+)
You are here because you are a concerned parent of an older teen male. He has been isolating himself for a while now and he really does not want to talk to you. About anything. He shuts his door and plays his video games or listens to his music alone in his room. He will communicate with his online friends and sometimes with friends at school, but for the most part, he is a loner, an outsider, an outcast. He has so much potential and you are afraid you might lose him to one of the many negative influences that are so readily available.
His high school social worker and classroom teachers have already identified your son as a "troublemaker", "needing help" or are also worried about him. Your son may already have an IEP at school and is struggling academically, socially and artistically. He has low self esteem and is being bullied online or to his face because he is seen as "Emo", "alternative", "artsy" or is introverted or a Highly Sensitive Person. Trust me. I've been there myself and it sucks. Not only for your son, but for you and your entire family.
If any of this sounds familiar, I am glad you are here and that you somehow found me.
Here are some ways that I could help your older teenage son:
- My approach and style is to gradually build trust with your teen so that they feel comfortable enough to share more about their emotions and behaviors. Your teen will not allow strangers into their world. If I am not authentic and real, we won't get anywhere and you will waste your hard-earned money and time. I help your teen male build trusting relationships so they are able to discuss issues such as relationships, grief and difficult emotions with you when they need it most.
- Your son and I will talk about music, video games and sports. We will play communication games that open up conversations about difficult subjects. We will watch YouTube videos of their favorite artists and will discuss their work and how it relates to your son's media consumption. Teens trust very few people and in order for them to talk, they need time to trust a stranger; especially a therapist. Developmentally, teens defy authority, break rules and engage in risky behaviors - it's normal, natural, and as a parent, you are not alone.
- Your teen might enjoy that outside of being a licensed therapist, I am also a professional musician, a DJ and I love sports. I am not your typical, stuffy psychotherapist who sits quietly and nods as your teen struggles to think of something to talk about. I will often use an ice-breaker such as Ungame to begin our conversation, especially if your teen is more introverted.
Some of the positive feedback that others have said about me is that I am "younger, active and cool therapist". I will also ask the tough questions and am comfortable exploring challenging topics.
If you are an older teen male reading this... thanks for checking this out! I hope your parent or guardian calls to see if we are a good fit for each other. Sometimes, it really sucks being a teenager - rules, regulations, laws, school performance, curfews, relationships and social media drama... Hang in there, ok? It gets better - much better!!! I had a tough time as a teenager too. I was bullied and teased because I was "different" and I was a band geek. I was lucky to have a good friend help me gain the confidence to not care what others thought of me. He taught me to "give the haters the Heisman". It was exactly what I needed at the perfect time. Thanks again - you rock!!!
Typically, I meet with the parent(s) and/or guardian(s) and your older teen son for the first session, and then we will discuss what future sessions might look like.